Stop Waiting for Others to Rescue You

Have you seen one of those old-fashioned, silent films? You know the kind. The black-and-white movies where the girl always seems to end up tied to the railroad track, with the train chugging and puffing closer and closer?

Her wide-eyed looks and gawking mouth are silly by today’s movie standards. But the message is a serious one. The question it poses is two-fold:

1.Do you allow yourself to get tied to dangerous train tracks?

2. Do you wait for others to rescue you?

If so, stop. It’s that straight-forward. You may need to find help, whether from friends or a professional counselor. But you are worth too much to be waiting for someone else to come rescue you. You have the power.

So, if this applies to you, stop waiting for others to rescue you. Don’t be like one of those silly black-and-white movie melodramas. It isn’t worthy of you. We promise.

Interview with Kathi Oram Peterson

I love, love, love people who use their talents to bless the lives of others. Kathi Oram Peterson is just such a person. She also has a new book out and was kind enough to spend some time chatting with me about her book and her background as a writer. You will love getting to know Kathi and you will especially want to pick up a copy of her newest book, An Angel on Main Street. I received a copy to review and couldn’t wait to interview Kathi about it!

Here is a bit about Kathi first, taken from her website:

Kathi Oram Peterson was born in the small town of Rigby, Idaho. Since childhood, she has loved reading and writing stories. After winning the Heart of the West (1994) and Golden Pen (1995) contests, she put her writing on hold to finish her English degree. Upon graduation, she worked for a curriculum publisher writing and editing concept and biography books for children. She now devotes her time writing inspirational fiction.

And now for the fun! Here’s my interview with Kathi…

C.S.: Kathi, you have a new book out. Tell us a bit about it.

KATHI: This story has been a work in progress for many, many years. I even wrote it into a screenplay, which took 4th place in a national contest. An Angel on Main Street is set in the 1950s and is about eleven-year-old Micah Connors. He’s been in and out of trouble since he learned of his father’s death in the Korean War. But as the book opens he’s trying to do better. 
Micah has promised his mother that in the new town of Bolton, Idaho, he would stay out of mischief. His mom has enough to worry about being a widow with two children, and her daughter, Annie, ill. As hard as he tries, Micah finds the trouble he promised to avoid. As the sheriff escorts him home they come upon a ramshackle stable. Someone is building a Nativity for the town, but no one knows who. While the sheriff and Micah’s mother are talking, Micah’s sister tells him she believes angels are building the Nativity and when baby Jesus comes, He’ll make her better. Worried that his sister might die before Christmas, Micah sets out on a quest to find the baby Jesus. But as he gets nearer to finding the Nativity builder, he learns that angels are closer than he ever believed. 
I loved writing this story. Though it is only 99 pages long I worked on it year after year, always at Christmastime, tweaking it here and there until finally it sold. I can’t tell you how very happy I am that it is finally in print. 

C.S.: Everyone who has read it remarks how touching it is. What was your purpose in writing it? And what was its genesis?

KATHI: I love Christmas and it only made sense to write a story about the holiday. I also wanted to write about growing up in a small town in the 50s. I was traveling to Colorado with a group of other writers. We were going to a conference. Everyone was listening to a speaker on tape. I was in the back seat and couldn’t really hear so I started thinking of stories I could write. I knew I wanted a time element counting down to Christmas. I wanted the story to focus around the Nativity. The story took off from there. It’s gone through many revisions, but the main thrust of the story is still the same as I thought of on that trip to Colorado.

C.S.: When did you first think about writing? As a kid? Later on? Why?

KATHI: I liked to write as a teenager. But I didn’t really set my mind to it until after my first child was born. My mother had given me some novels to read. The great ones by Phyllis Whitney, Nora Lofts, Mary Stewart. Jane Austin. I loved those books. One day as Mom and I were discussing the stories, she turned to me and told me that I should try to write a book. She encouraged me. So did my father. He loved to write. I soooo wish they were alive today to see my books published.

C.S.: That would be wonderful in deed. What are some of the ways you approach writing?

KATHI: I have to write to feel my life has purpose. There have been stretches when I haven’t written. During those times I become depressed, things just don’t go right. Knowing this about myself, I’ve tried to write something every day. When I’m working on a book, I try to give myself goals for each day such as a chapter a day or ten pages a day. I’m one of those writers who has to get the story out first, so my first draft is pretty rough. Then I read through it several times correcting punctuation, grammar and pumping up motivation.

C.S.: What are your purposes when you write? Is it part escapist? Is it to share feelings? Or something else?

KATHI: My main purpose is to tell a good story. I hope my readers can escape into my stories as they read them. Feelings play a huge part of my writing. Not mine but my characters (Though I must admit that sometimes I cry with my characters. Don’t tell anyone.). I work hard to show my main character’s inner turmoil, how he/she grows and learns through the course of the story. As the years have gone by my main goal is to write inspirational stories that people can relate to and gain hope from.  

C.S.: What was one of the most enjoyable parts about writing this Christmas book?

KATHI: I mainly wrote on this book during the Christmas season. Working on Micah’s story helped me view the holiday through a child’s point of view. Actually, I don’t think I’ll ever grow up completely so it wasn’t that difficult. I love the wonder and awe of Christmas, the snow, the lights, the feeling of love, and mostly celebrating the Savor’s birth. I really enjoyed these aspects in writing this book. I hope I’ve portrayed that in the story. 

C.S.: What was one of the hardest parts?
KATHI: The hardest parts were thinking of the fear that must run through a child’s heart at the loss of a parent and the possible loss of a sibling. When I was a little girl, my mother suffered a heart attack while shampooing my hair for a dance recital. I remember how scared I was. We lived in an apartment over my father’s store, and many times I’d stand at the window looking down on Main Street wondering if she would be all right. She nearly died. When she came home she told us of a very spiritual experience she had. Through her experience I learned that death, while horrible for those left behind, is something not to fear.

C.S.: What are your thoughts on “writer’s block”? Have you experienced it? If so, what do you do?

KATHI: The only times I’ve had writer’s block was when I was trying to make a character do something they didn’t want to do or when I’ve deviated from the story. For instance, in one story I came upon some fascinating information about a historical person. As I wrote the story that character began to take over the story. I became blocked and couldn’t move forward. As soon as I realized what I’d done I had to throw out a couple of chapters, but it was worth it because once again things were clicking as they should.

C.S.: Have you ever been discouraged as a writer? Felt like quitting? What did you do?

KATHI: We don’t have enough time to talk about how often I have felt like quitting. But as I said before, writing gives me purpose, so even though I may become discouraged from a bad review or a severe critique I muscle through it and learn what I can from the experience. I might take a day or two to rethink, and then I’m back at it.

C.S.: What was your path to having this book published?

KATHI: It was a long, twisty path that had its ups and downs. Many times I felt like giving up, but then my friends would encourage me to work on it again. Every year a dear writing friend would ask me, “What are you going to do about Micah’s story?” And I would pull it out again. She can’t say that this year. Well, I guess she could in that I need to revamp the screenplay. Hmm…something else to work on.

C.S.: What words of encouragement do you have for those who are experiencing setbacks or trials at this time of year?

KATHI: It’s cliche, but true…never give up. If you think you have what it takes keep at it. Don’t let someone else’s opinion discourage you. I have a friend that quits writing whenever someone critiques her. You have to develop a thick writer’s skin to survive in this business, because if you can’t take the criticism before you’re published, what are you going to do when people critique your published book? Could be sad times. Believe in yourself. Always be open to learn new techinques that will strength your work and keep at it.

C.S.: Is there a scripture that is particularly meaningful to you?

KATHI: I love the scriptures. For my book, The Forgotten Warrior, I studied chapters 24 and 56 of Alma and their verses gained a place in my heart for the story they tell . For An Angel on Main Street it would be Luke chapters 1 and 2. I don’t have one particular scripture that stands out because at different times in my life they all do.

C.S.: What new project(s) are you working on now?

KATHI: I have several books I’m working on: another YA time travel, a picture book, a YA paranormal, and possibly a romantic suspense. Oh and a screenplay.
C.S.: Any final words for our readers?

KATHI: I appreciate those who read my books. In this day and age there are so many demands on our time and that they would steal away enough time to devote to reading my book I feel is an honor. Thank you!  

C.S.: An Angel on Main Street makes a perfect, inspirational Christmas gift. Where can readers go to find it?

KATHI: My books can be found at Seagull Book and Deseret Book Stores and at their websites. They are also for sale at

Free Books from Deseret Book

Now this is terrific. Just heard from an email list. And it’s available only for a short time. Here is the information directly from author and EFY speaker, John Hilton:
As part of a study, I’ve (John Hilton III) been working with Deseret Book and they have made 8 of their books available for FREE DOWNLOAD at They are good books!

1.       Please Pass the Scripture (by me).

2.       What I Wish I Would Have Known When I Was Single (by John Bytheway).

3.       Women at the Well (by Richard and Jeni Holzapfel).

4.       Digging Deeper (by Robert Eaton).

5.       10 Secrets Wise Parents Know (by Brent Top and Bruce Chadwick).

6.       Growing Up: Gospel Answers About Maturation and Sex (by Brad Wilcox).

7.       Saving Kristen (by Jack Weyland). (fiction)

8.       The Hidden Path (by C.B. Andersen). (fiction)

I’ve read part or all of all of these books and they are great. If nothing else, I recommend that you go download them all and save them for future reference as they will only be available online for free for a short time.

Wondering if you would be so kind as to help spread the word by forwarding this email on to anyone you think would be interested in getting some free church books. I would love to help share these great, free resources with as many people as possible. Some of the books help you get more out of the scriptures. Others are good for parenting. Some are just plain fun. Go check out I hope you like the books!

–John Hilton III

The Lord’s Voice for Times of Poverty

Found this in Haggai (Old Testament) yesterday and I found it so interesting, given the current economic conditions:

Ye have asown much, and bring in little; ye beat, but ye have not enough; ye drink, but ye are not filled with drink; ye clothe you, but there is none warm; and he that cearneth wages earneth dwages to put it into a bag with eholes

As I think about the economic conditions found in the world, this scripture seems very fitting as I read and re-read the verse.

What does the Lord’s ancient prophet say about severe economic conditions? The answers are in Haggai 1: Value the temple. Build temples. Attend temples. Make of ourselves clean and holy people. And then God can bless, as He always delights to do so.

Haggai 1 and 2 are very illuminating chapters from the Old Testament about economic difficulties and their sources. (Thus, perhaps, President Hunter’s recommendation back a few decades when he desired that every Latter-day Saint be temple worthy and have a current temple recommend…even if the temple were a long distance away.)

Maybe we all need to attend the temple doubly often. If we — due to distance — attend currently once a year, perhaps we could double that to twice a year. If we attend monthly, perhaps we could attend twice a month. Weekly? Maybe we could step that up a bit also.

I know that the Lord’s promises are sure. I tell the EFY kids that I speak to at EFYs the following little thought (and I reference it over and over again): God Keeps His Promises!

May we do the same. As we return to Him, He will return to us. This is what I thought on as I read in Haggai yesterday. Maybe our nation as a whole won’t, but we certainly can. ( See the reference in Genesis about Sodom!)

My little family is focusing on this tiny expression:

FAITH = trust.

In other words, faith simply means we trust God’s truths. That’s why faith is really trust in action.

OK, done musing on all this. I just was really struck by the economic principles contained in this ancient prophet’s words, spoken to a people who had become cavalier towards the importance of the Lord’s house.

For the Thing You Desire

The last post is so important that we felt to reiterate it here. You have to make a place in your heart for the thing you desire, for it to be willing to come and grace your life.

Go back and re-read last week’s post. Ponder on it. Journal about it. What does it mean to you? Then write us and let us know. We’d love to hear from you!

You Must Make a Place in Your Heart for Success

Ever see a butterfly land on a flower? It doesn’t just “chunk” itself down. No, it effortlessly lands on a petal here, a leaf there. Beauty is always full of grace.

Success can feel like a butterfly at times. When you approach it lightly, sincerely, willingly, it gracefully remains. But if you’re freaking out about deadlines, about pressure, about “must”s or “should”s or “have-to”s, you will scare away the butterflies of success with all that movement.

One of the simplest ways to invite success into your life is to still yourself and to open your heart. Are you ready for success? Are you a willing host or hostess? Do you invite it by the stillness of your soul inside?

You must prepare a place in your heart for success, much as you would a visitor who is coming to stay in your home. For her, you would pull out the fresh linens, washcloths, guest soap and towels. You would spruce up your home, expectantly waiting for your prized visitor. You would watch out the window during her expected time of arrival.

So, is this how you prepare for success in your life? Do you eagerly look for “her”? Or do you bang around, forcing your way through life, screaming at the injustices that surround you? Complaining at setbacks? Snarling at others’ successes?

Those who are successful have made a place in their heart for winning, for ease, for abundance for themselves and for others. If you’re still working on this, that is fine. It takes time to learn how to be still, still enough for a butterfly to visit and to stay. Just know that when you’re ready, and have quieted the “freaking out” and gentled the “must”s, lady success is far more likely to gently grace your life’s petals.